Letter #3: When We Said “Yes”

Mateo, this is our story…

A text message that changed everything

📅 February 16, 2021

:: Text message from Robert ::
Fertility care.
+52 4492 27

“She’s a patient coordinator or something.”

I called the next day and the voice on the other end of the line sounded frantic. I could hear a crowd in the background and the first question he asked me after introducing myself was:

“Who gave you my personal number?”

I paused and gave her the name. She looked surprised and said she would call me as soon as she could, as she was on her way home on a crowded subway.

I waited anxiously, pacing back and forth in our living room.

When he finally called back that night, we talked for one hour about the process and their work. In the end, we agreed to schedule a formal meeting Zoom the next day. Minutes later, she confirmed the appointment and informed us that the owner of FertyCareVicky would also join the meeting.

The conversation that changed our lives

We don't know if it was his tone, his way of expressing himself or his personality, but from the first moment we felt that Vicky was the right person.

Made us feel comfortable, informed and listened to. It wasn't just a talk about surrogacy; spent an hour answering all our questions. He knew it wasn't the first agency we'd spoken to, so he took the time to explain every detail of its procedures.

The difference with other agencies was evident: It didn't feel like a business transaction, but as the beginning of a process that would change our lives.

We felt understood. Maybe it was because of the years of research we had under our belts, but this meeting gave us much more than just the basics.

We didn't know the costs yet, but by the end of the call, Papi Martin and I knew this was going to happen. We were willing to give up all our material possessions to make it possible.

We understood the risks:

• An embryo may not attach.
• We could lose thousands of dollars.
• There could be medical complications.

Ours minds were focused on the worst, but our hearts They only thought about who we could become.

More than a financial decision, an ethical decision

Beyond the economic aspects, surrogacy is a process that involves a great deal of ethical reflection.

Should we be doing this?

We asked ourselves this question hundreds of times. We talked about it for hours, making sure that our values and conscience were aligned with this decision.

Mateo, the most important thing for us is that one day you can form your own beliefs and valuesWe were worried that you might not agree with our decisions.

We knew that we would go out of the norm. We would pay for medical and scientific procedures designed to make your existence possible. And we were aware that many people might see it as something unethical or incorrect.

Despite all the doubts, One thing we were sure of:

We would love you unconditionally.

Before you were even conceived, You had already changed the course of our lives.

A lonely road, but full of hope

So much Daddy Martin like me we grew up in conservative and religious families, which meant that we had to Educate our own family about this process as we lived it.

At many times, the journey was lonely. We didn't know anyone who had been through this. There were no role models. However, We support each other at every stage of the process.

In the end, we focused on what really mattered:

The future.

Matthew, life can be exciting.

Our parents emigrated from Mexico looking for a better futureThey left everything behind to work in the fields, doing work that many did not want to or could not do. They endured physical, mental and emotional exhaustion, all so that we could have opportunities that they never imagined.

Achieve our PhDs It was our way of showing them that their sacrifices were not in vain.

Your example of effort and perseverance is what drives us. From the trips we have made to our careers, we know that We are here thanks to your decisions and sacrifices.

Now, we wait making the right decisions for you.

We want to offer you a life full of curiosity, love and passion. We want that experience the world at its finest. We will not focus on material goods, but on providing you experiences that make you grow as a human being.

But before all this could happen, we had to say yes.

The first step towards your arrival

For the March 1st, we were already in a WhatsApp group with Vicky, Papi Martín, the coordinator and other members of the FertyCare team.

But beyond saying yes to an agency either Yes to a process, we felt like we were telling him yes to you.

Yes to you being in our lives forever.
Yes to leaving behind the life we knew to live a full life by your side.

FertyCare
“Bring light to your rainbow!”