Letter #2: Three Agencies Later (English)

In 2020, the coronavirus pandemic forced the world to stop. For months of isolation, my husband, Daddy Martin, and I had the time to reflect on the life and family we wanted to form. We had always talked about the possibility of being parents, and without distractions, we finally began to investigate the path to surrogacy.

He September 16, 2020, we took the first step by contacting PrimaVita Surrogacy, an agency in Austin, Texas. However, excitement quickly turned to concern: the estimated cost was $120,000 dollars.

At that time, we had saved for three years and had about $30,000 dollars on the bench. We realized that at the pace we were going, it would take us at least nine years more to reach the necessary amount. Despite looking for alternatives, we discovered that in the United States the costs of surrogacy did not vary much, with some agencies charging up to $150,000 dollars.

For one gay male couple, the surrogacy process is complex both medically and legally. First, we needed a egg donor, who would be the biological mother of the baby, but without the possibility of knowing her or interacting with her. Then, we had to decide who of the two would provide the sperm for the creation of embryos in the laboratory, followed by a Preimplantation Genetic Testing (PGT).

Finally, the embryos would be transferred to the surrogate mother, who would bear the baby, although without a genetic link to him. We learned a lot in this early stage, but the most important thing was that we had to make drastic changes in our lives and financial habits if we really wanted to become parents.

The search continues

Apart from buying our first home, we had never considered an investment of more than $100,000 dollars. On several occasions, we thought about selling her because we knew that starting a family was the most important thing for us. However, we felt discouraged and gave up on the idea of surrogacy until November 2021.

One day, a post in Facebook on surrogacy in Cancun, Mexico, caught our attention. After the disappointing experience with agencies in the United States, we decided to explore this possibility.

One of our friends mentioned hearing about Miracle Surrogacy, also through social media. Upon investigation, we realized that their marketing strategy was based primarily on digital platforms. Although we were excited, we were afraid that it would be another disappointment.

We scheduled an appointment to speak with their representatives. After a schedule confusion, we received the call, which turned out to be only audio, without a video call. The conversation was quick, impersonal and seemed like a rehearsed speech. When it was over, we felt empty and unsatisfied.

The email we received next contained a generic and inauthentic message, but at least included the cost information: Premium package cost almost $60,000 dollars, an amount that we could consider reaching with effort.

An unexpected turn

By then, it was December 2021 and we had already planned a Family trip to Cancun in March 2022. We decided that we would take a day off to visit Miracle Surrogacy and evaluate whether this was the right agency.

However, that visit never happened.

Before the trip, we shared our experience with Our close friends, Erika and Robert, over dinner. What started as a casual conversation ended up being a crucial turn in our search.

While we won't share the details out of respect for our friends' privacy, the most important piece of information that came out of that conversation was the name of a new agency: FertyCare.

Located in the Mexico City, FertyCare sounded like a promising option. The most relevant thing was that we had a close contact who had used their services successfully.

Excited about this new possibility, we called the agency as soon as we got their number. Then, we made the decision to shorten our trip to Cancun and fly to Mexico City to meet the team FertyCare in person.

Their staff welcomed us with open arms and for the first time we feel that our The journey to parenthood had truly begun.

FertyCare
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